Wow, I couldn’t agree with you more. You have said exactly what most gay guys either disregard or disagree with, which is quite sad given that all of us gays go through these exact stages and yet we don’t acknowledge these facts. You’re on point! 👌🏽😘
Just ran across this video for the first time 4 years after recording. I'm 54 yo gay male and have felt the same way all my life. I've always believed in serial monogamy and shunned the hookup culture. But I do not believe that gay men in general can have a serious one on one relationship. EVERY relationship I have been in during my life I have gotten fucked over. The most recent lasted 11 years. I gave him benefit of the doubt time and time and time again for I had no proof but eventually, what's done in the dark will come to light. Not once have I ever fucked around on a partner. I wonder if I'm the gay male out there that does not fuck around. I'm done with relationships, I'm done with guys, I got porn and my right hand, Good luck to ya!
You are exactly right man. Any gay man who disagrees with you is fooling themselves. I've been on many cruises and was thinking of a gay cruise soon, but I'm wary. I've talked to guys who've been on them and they are floating bathhouses.
How many animals told you that they only fuck for procreation?? Because most mammals are very sexual and homosexuality is very prevalent amongst males because they are both horny more often than their opposite sex and the female has to welcome them into sex we are exactly like most mammals
Let’s talk about how gullible you! Judging something you have never experienced. Gay cruises are amazing. Sex can be found anywhere and is not limited to cruises. You are so misinformed and rambling on and on about your insecurities and hatred of yourself. Get some therapy.
You seem to be equating the guys who write their whiteboard sex schedules with anyone who is in an open relationship. There are many ways to be non monogamous whilst also loving and respecting yourself and your partner. There is a huge gulf between the 'I don't care' fuck everything way of life and being open but being discerning and looking for genuine connection with your additional partners. Love isn't a finite resource, time is.
It's like the glorification of drug money and cheap sex in other communities. What is called a 'community' is just a racket; people profit from the harmful traits and habits of others. Gilead Pharma, mega corporations, and politicians feed from this manufactured 'community'.
There are many of us like you. I am only interested in finding someone to love and love me back, for good or ill, until our bodies give up. People want to assign a set of qualities to any group they can as a means to circumvent the need to consider strangers on the level of an individual and recognize there is no predictive measurement for behavior. Try not to be disappointed in your community because it is a diverse one where you fit in more than you might believe. The loudest and most prominent representation you dislike is also a much smaller portion of our population than you might believe.
I've been in 3 relationships and 2 passed away from AIDS! I've never devalued myself as you are talking! I have a hard time seeing what you are talking about? Maybe you need to settle down with one man as I had! I had 20 years with he last one until he cheated during my cancer! You are painting us with an awfully fine brush! It's unfair and ridiculous!
That whole "Monogamy is not natural" argument, is absolutely RIDICULOUS, and they know it.
You know what else is "not natural"? Tying your own shoes, speaking a particular language, knowing how to feed and dress yourself, being educated, etc.
"How is this not natural?", you may ask.
It's simple. You don't come out of the womb knowing how to do all of these things. They are learned disciplines. The key word here is DISCIPLINE!!! If we can learn how to do those things, then we can be monogamous. It takes DISCIPLINE, self-control, maturity, commitment, SELFLESSNESS!!!!
i think you are kinda stoke with that idea of christian purity of love...i mean i am monogamy but i understand that sex is not love it's sex and you can have a spiritual experience with strangers and you can have spiritual experience with only your lover if you feel like it
Our "community" has only been allowed to develop for about 40 years or so we don't really have a template to replicate ,plus as soon as the gay scene got going the money makers , club proprietors started this whole thing about" oh us gays we love to drink and do drugs , we're so decadent , we party party party," and then HIV hit us in the mid eighties , We've had a tough time , I just hope the younger guys don't spend all their money on clubs and drugs because they're is a big world out there and its needing to be explored….sometime the loneliest place in the world is a nightclub on drugs and alone……..believe me I've been there!!
Im not into that life style too that comedy special detured me from ever wanting to go on a gay crusie like that osunds fowl nasty and discusting to me gross. gross gross gross. I don't like hoes,drugs,alcholics. noo noo its not even just about being monogomus a lot of them are trashy drugy and that has nothing to do with being faithful or with 1 person.
I completely agree. I'm 28 and have had 1 sexual partner my whole life and that was in a 5 year relationship. You look and look for a genuine connection with someone but sex is usually at the back of everyone's mind and when they find out you don't have random encounters, they make it seem worse than if you were getting it in daily with multiple partners. That's not healthy nor right. But some how it's become the norm. I'm a very attractive "young" man who also has a brain but dudes seem to bypass my thoughts and feelings and go straight for the crotch cuz I guess being "hot" means you are also a whore.
I wish there were more people like us, and I totally agree that we need to get to the younger generation and stop this ridiculous cycle of filth.